Say YES More, So NO Means More

If you have a strong willed child, you are probably starting to realize you need to pick you battles. All three of my children have gone through phases like this, but my youngest is probably the most stubborn out of all of them. He’s been babied too long and his recent hospital stay was 19 days of getting anything he wanted. He also knows how to work people… He knows when to be cute and when to be sweet, and he has learned how to distract people from the naughty thing he did. He also uses excuses to get out of things. When asked to clean his room, Cylus says “My tummy hurts…”! He’s a smart mess!!!

Cylus

Now, my husband and I are having to learn how to pick our battles. We are trying to be more lenient on the little stuff and extremely firm on the important stuff. He has heard NO’s turn into YES’s too often. He thinks he can always turn a NO into a YES. I’m not a pushover, but he’s been through a lot health-wise and it’s been easier to change our minds than have him get worked up (especially if the YES isn’t a big deal). But this has come at a great cost. I wish I would’ve said YES more a long time ago.

He’s learning that our NO’s aren’t going to change, but that doesn’t stop him from trying. He’s too smart for his own good. But I tend to be a NO mom, which I’m trying to work on. I get asked so many ridiculous questions a day that I habitually say NO before I even think about what was asked. I’m learning to say YES when all my kids ask for something that isn’t going to harm them or spoil their dinner. Why shouldn’t I say YES to playing in the rain or having an extra snack hours before dinner or having dessert after eating all of their food. In the long run, they are going to quit arguing with the NO’s and understand that I am not altering my decisions. All decisions are final!

If you wanna try it with me, be more lenient and let your kids be kids. And let your NO’s be meaningful!

 

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